since last monday i've killing myself by sitting at home doing nothing as usually if hari raya were to fall on weekdays or weekends by dad would only have two days of leave which is on the hari ray itself and the next day which is the public holiday other than that he would be working. so weekdays we usually dont go out for jalan raya only on the weekends we have to tire ourselves till late at night to go to all houses as we might not have time if we were to go to just few houses on each day. well even though we didnt we go out these few days for raya,we were still worn out on monday,as some of my uncles and aunts from my mom side came in the afternoon,not really bad though,as not much things we need to do but not until all the relatives from my dad side came at night. for them is extra special as any house they go,they cant just eat the kuihs on the table,that is not their tradition,their tradition is not just the kuihs we have to serve but foods,like fried noodles,pizza,fried rice etc...and not just that they would stay up late at night then they would asked for their leave. and that is the tradition from my dad's side. which i dont really like it and i'm not really close to my dad's side only my mom's side that i'm super close with.
if you were to asked me and my brother how many cousins we have from my dad's side, our answer would be simple which is "i dont know",whats more if you were to ask us their names, our answer would still be "i dont know". actually there's a lot of stories why me and my brother are not close to our dad's side. firstly,from what i know, since the day my dad was born, his grandparents was the one who had been taking care of my father instead of my grandparents. so from the start my dad himself are not close with his own siblings. since then actually, my dad dosen't want to pay a visit to his siblings houses and his own dad which was last time when my grandfather is still alive. but because my mom tried to comfort my dad since then at least once a year during hari raya,we,the whole family would pay a visit to my dad's side. i don't know why my dad don't really like his own siblings though. but what i hate bout it is they leave in the west while i'm living in the east.and that freaking far ok. and for each house my dad at least sits for 1hour,aiyo!!!,that is the disadvantages but the advantages is since all his siblings lives in the west,the journey make sit easier,some even live just next door.
thats are some of the story from my dad's side,even from my mom's side,there's stories, they still leaves a question mark for everyone. my grandma from my mom's side, is actually chinese but then in the kampong days her family had to give her away to a malay family where his father used to work with. she had to be given away because of some financial and family problems. since then my grandma really family never visited her and her birth certificate were burnt,and her names were changed. till today no one know not even my grandma knows her really name and birth date. that makes everyday is her birthday :), as she grew up and get married,and have 7 children till today,my mom and her siblings did tried to find my grand ma real family. but no one knows. some says they are still alive and stayed in tampines,while others said they don't live there etc. hmm..many things were left unknown..
by the way both my grandparents from my dad's side, had passed away long time ago but i only get to see my grandfather not my grandma as from the stories i heard only brother get to see my grandma and she passed away when i was just few months old while my grandfather passed away while i was in primary school still. same goes for my grandfather from my mom's side, he passed away while i'm still in primary school. so now i'm left with one grand ma which is from my mom's side.
dedication:
my beloved grandma,Nenek Som,
your the best grandma i ever had,
yet your the best mom and mother in law,
your children ever had,
i pray to Him, may he bless you with good health,
& long live,love you, nenek!!!
to both my grandparents from my dad's side,
Allahyarham Datuk Yem & Nenek Mary, also to my
grandfather from my mom's side, Allahyarham
Datuk Jasman, i may and may not able to see you before you
passed away but i always send you my prayers & doa..
always love you,and you always lives in my heart..
